When I was diagnosed with CML, it seems I also caught chronic disorganisedness and forgetfulness. To be fair, it was mostly due to a side-effect of the drug I was taking. But to someone that had been extremely well organised - never forgot an appointment, was always early, always had everything (and everyone else) in order - this was one of the harder things for me to deal with. Previously, I had never had to use any tools to keep myself organised. I just did it. Then, suddenly, I didn't know if I was coming or going.
These are some of the things I learnt after a lot of fumbling around. I will expand each of the "lessons" in the next couple of weeks.
- To use and rely on a calendar and diary.
- The importance of a routine.
- Doing things in stages can be easier than trying to finish everything in one go.
- Make a menu and grocery list before going to the shops.
- Say "yes" less often.
- The kids, even little ones, are capable of a lot more that I gave them credit for.
- Ask people for help when you need it. They'll probably say yes!
- Stop being such a control freak. Life will continue on it's merry way, even if it's not organised to the hilt.
I have followed, off and on, the Flylady for a while. When I'm doing it, it works a treat. Unfortunately, it hasn't all become habit for me yet and I tend to have periods where I forget it all together. None the less, many of the above lessons have come from there. My ultimate aim is for it all to become second nature. When that will happen, who knows :-)
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There are some great lessons in this list. I love the one about children being capable. That is so true and I remind myself constantly that it is very important for the children to become self sufficient.
You're right Planningqueen. Kids are amazing. I think in trying to protect them from physical & emotional hurt (a purely natural thing to do as a parent), we sometimes forget that.
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